Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Three Things People Need in Recovery

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With the increase, and awareness, of the opioid crisis there is also the ever-increasing number of people coming into recovery and treatment. We must make an increasingly substantial effort to assist them as they find their way to wholeness and peace. Each person stands in need of three things for recovery to, not only be possible but, to be successful.

A Friend

Having someone in our life that helps us see things objectively, holds us accountable, and assists us in being motivated is wonderful. Yet, when we have someone that accepts us and appreciates us unconditionally goes further in how we approach and engage recovery.

Responsibility

Developing responsibility for our own life, our own thoughts, and our own feelings helps us move toward wholeness as we begin to realize we are the only person responsible for our own life. This includes our own recovery.

Higher Power

Having a higher power helps us refocus ourselves back onto what is more important. This is where we develop faith, receive wisdom and insight, and able to find empowerment to face obstacles and challenges in recovery.

Those who are in a healthy place, and working a healthy recovery program, has a duty to provide these things to those coming into their own path and journey from substance use.

Today's mindful meditation

I will focus on making new connections, taking responsibility, and continually seeking guidance from my higher power. 

 

Monday, January 8, 2018

Healing Power of Recovery

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 Healing is a matter of time, but sometimes it is a matter of opportunity

~ Hippocrates ~


One's journey through recovery is a powerful healing process that exists among those faithful, courageous, and committed to change. This does not happen overnight. As much as we want to find a quick solution to a deep spiritual problem; we are gradually healing one day at a time.

It begins the moment we come to realize our dependence on substances is the reason for our sickness. We call on those who are already in recovery, enter into treatment, seek help for our physical ailments, and venture to seek out spiritual counsel.  Abstinence teaches us how to sustain short term recovery. Sustained and long-term abstinence requires learning and growth toward an adaptive healing process of change.

We are to live in recovery by adopting healthier skill sets and awareness of moving toward a whole and fulfilling healthy lifestyle.

Recovery, therefore, involves our own participation in healthy and meaningful life activities. This is based on our identified values, interests, and beliefs. We are also mindful of our own present thoughts and feelings, managing them - even when they are seemingly disturbing and uncomfortable. As we are healing, we are also rediscovering (or discovering for the first time) who we are as individuals. This, hopefully, leads us toward conscious awareness as we begin to sustain balance in our lives.


Today's thoughtful meditation

I will focus on my own process of healing, taking one day at a time, experiencing my own conscious awareness in order to continue to sustain balance and harmony.

Sunday, January 7, 2018

The Power of Prayer and Meditation

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  As soon as I heard these words I sat down and wept and mourned for days, and I continued fasting and praying before the God of heaven.

~ Nehemiah 1:4, ESV ~


Believe in the Power of prayer - it is real, it is wonderful, it is tremendous

~ Gordon B. Hinckley ~


Prayer is not merely a religious act. It is a fundamental spiritual discipline that connects an individual to their Higher Power. Authentic and genuine prayer begins when our true self (soul) ignites with fresh fire and fresh wind to reach out beyond oneself. Our heart draws close to something more majestic, more meaningful, and more powerful. And people typically reach a point in crisis where they cry out to God. There are no atheists in foxholes.

As we move forward in our journey of recovery, prayer and meditation helps quiet the mind, helps us focus on what is present, and keeps us connected to our higher power. Through prayer and meditation, we find guidance, comfort, peace, and when we listen carefully in this quiet state - we hear the still small voice.

Nehemiah served in the kings' court and received a report of those who had escaped and were exiled from Jerusalem. This happened during the Babylonian captivity and the destruction of the first Temple. Upon the report, Nehemiah rent his cloak, wept greatly, and began fasting and praying. This was not something he did one time. The text reports Nehemiah prayed and fasted "...for days." 

In the early stage of recovery, we begin to awaken to the report of the brokenness our substance use has caused us. We find ourselves in exile, servants, and the brokenness of our own homes.  We are moved with great compassion for our own reproach and affliction. Through prayer and meditation, through fasting and seeking, we may find solace and peace.

Real prayer begins with the understanding of how we meditate and contemplate on what it is we are praying for. We speak with our higher power as we are speaking one toward another. Through faith, surrender, and hope, we may receive the counsel and guidance in our recovery and journey toward sobriety.

Prayer is a daily spiritual discipline and practice that requires humility. We pray, not for God to calm the storm of our unmanageable life, we pray for guidance in how to adjust our sails in order to navigate through the storm of an unmanageable life.


Today's thoughtful meditation

Today, I will develop the spiritual discipline of praying, meditating, and fasting as I navigate the storms of my life. That is where I will find peace of mind, comfort, strength, courage, and counsel.

Saturday, January 6, 2018

The Year of Cultivation of a New Life

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The first week of 2018 is almost closing out. How far along in your new year's resolution changes have you fully committed too? It is not too late to make necessary steps toward change. It begins with making an honest commitment to begin moving towards intention, purpose, meaning, and conscious living. Make 2018 all about cultivating a new life.

This single moment of commitment stems from the deep sense of impulse of one's desire to grow and change. This authentic impulse yearns for each of us to expand, embrace our larger potential and means to influence others. However, many of us make good intentions of wanting to change, yet we never follow through on those intentions. All paths that lead to hell are paved with good intentions.

Hell, in this context, is misery, pain, inadequacy, and suffrage. We desire to change, however, lack the commitment and motivation to follow through with seeing ourselves changing, growing, and enlarging into better people. Our desire for change requires a serious commitment and motivation for change to happen. This is one key principle I share with my patients. This does not make the journey, or the process, toward change an easy path to follow.

Commitment leads to sacrifice based on our willingness

The beginning path of conscious living, where we have meaning and purpose, begins with the understanding of our own willingness to commit ourselves toward necessary change. This requires necessary sacrifices needed to begin transforming our lives. For the person whose new year's resolution is to begin exercising requires the willingness to commit to exercising. Requires the willingness to change one's diet and eating habits, and making the sacrifices of time, money, and personal change of habits. For the person whose new year's resolution is to quit smoking, the willingness and commitment toward tobacco cessation.

Our level of commitment is our level of willingness. Lower our level of commitment, the lower our level of willingness to make change happen. The higher our level of commitment, the higher our willingness to make change happen becomes. And our commitment comes with sacrifice. That, I believe, is what frightens people from making an effort toward change. Our very desire is our very fear.

Without motivation, our commitment and willingness are futile

The final truth is this: it is not about our intentions. It is not even about our commitment, willingness, and our needed sacrifices. It is about what motivates us to not only start our journey, to keep going through those difficult times while we are engaged in change.

A farmer does not look at his land and say, "this is too difficult." Instead, he sees the various possibilities the land has in producing a bountiful crop. He is committed to cultivating the land, making the necessary sacrifices, and is willing to spend each day nurturing and cultivating. His motivation? It's not the actual bounty of the harvest he may gain. His motivation is the process of each day working, tilling, planting, nurturing, and being focused on what he has accomplished for that day alone.

 

Faith Overcomes

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There is no obstacle too great, no challenge too difficult, if we have faith

~ Gordon B. Hinckley ~

There are many presenting challenges the moment an individual begins traversing their journey through recovery. One faces many different obstacles. Challenges may seem difficult to face. Yet, it takes great courage and bold faith to overcome our obstacles and challenges. As we continue to remind ourselves three important truths:

  • Because of our substance use, we are powerless, and our lives are unmanageable
  • Since we are powerless and our lives are unmanageable, it takes something greater and more powerful to help us find restoration and peace in our lives
  • We decide to turn our lives and our personal will (volition) over to our higher power

Faith is essentially that which we hope for and yet is unseen. We have faith that our lives will be restored, and we will eventually experience peace, joy, and have meaning and purpose. Our faith grows as we continue to learn to trust in our own Higher Power.

In Barnes Notes on the Bible, we find the following:

The mustard-seed was the smallest of all seeds. It has been supposed by some, therefore, that he meant to say, If you have the smallest or feeblest faith that is genuine, you can do all things. The mustard-seed produced the largest of all herbs. It has been supposed by others, therefore, to mean, If you have increasing, expanding, enlarged faith, growing and strengthening from small beginnings, you can perform the most difficult undertaking. There is a principle of vitality in the grain of seed stretching forward to great results, which illustrates the nature of faith. Your faith should be like that. This is probably the true meaning.

Ye shall say unto this mountain ... - Probably he pointed to a mountain near, to assure them that if they had such faith they might accomplish the most difficult undertakings - things that at first would appear impossible.

Recovery from substance use requires the smallest amount of faith. This small faith becomes powerful in the life of the individual. It is the essential truth of all religious and spiritual belief systems. It is essential to recovery as well.  Our faith begets hope, and our hope begets peace; whereby we begin to experience healing in our lives. That is what recovery is about - healing and restoring ourselves.

The greatest enemy to one's sobriety and recovery is this: Fear of our inadequacies to overcome obstacles and challenges we may face. Our greatest ally is faith in our higher power where we draw confidence and strength to face our obstacles and challenges.


Today's Thoughtful Meditation

I will begin exercising the smallest amount of faith when facing the challenges and obstacles that may hinder me from moving forward in my own recovery.

 

Friday, January 5, 2018

Restoring the Temple of the Soul

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Each religious movement in human history has established a sacred place of worship, except for Christianity. For many Christians, the temple is our physical body. These beautiful and ornate buildings took hours of labor and sacrifice to build. Recovery is not merely a journey to transform our lives; it's a journey to restore our most valuable possession. Our physical body, our spiritual essence, and our mind.

Along with temple worship, in ancient and modern human history, many religious beliefs also have a dietary plan for healthy living. The focus is on one's physical health and well-being. Following these dietary guidelines, individuals may retain longevity and prevent life threatening illnesses. Modern medical science confirms that the best prescription for healthy lifestyle comprises:

  • Healthy and nutritional meals
  • Adequate hydration
  • Regular exercise and weekly active physical exertion
  • Adequate and regular sleep cycles

Medical practitioners recommend limiting caffeine and process sugar. They also appear to recommend abstinence from processed foods and nicotine use (cigarettes, chewing tobacco, and nicotine deliver products).

Integrating exercise, changing present diet, becoming active, and working to restore our overall physical well-being may improve our ability to be emotionally, physically, and mentally resilient. This requires great sacrifice, extensive labor, and commitment to restore our temple. A place where our soul and mind are nourished and sustained.

Begin with seeking medical and dental care. Follow all medical recommendations, discuss with one's primary physician one's ability to integrate exercise, and take things slow. Small changes lead to greater results. Set goals, work with an accountability partner (or sponsor). Track changes and progress. Implement rewards when milestones are reached.

Here are some simple ways to begin integrating healthy living as part of our recovery process. This comes from the Simple Luxurious Lifestyle blog.

Take in productive fuel

We already established the need to move from processed foods, limit and cease energy drinks, moderate caffeine intake, quit smoking, and move away from processed sugars. What is interesting is the type of information we take in. Moving toward a healthy lifestyle also begins with monitoring and change what we are reading, listening too, and visually seeing. One of the best recommendations is to read something that is inspiring, uplifting, or focusing on personal growth and influence. For those within a faith-based community, begin to develop a routine of scripture reading, meditation, and prayer (morning and evening).

Just Listen

Another interesting principle the author brings up is learning to listen to our own body. Become in tuned with it. Recognize the messages we are receiving. Whether our bodies are telling us we are tired, hungry, stressed, relaxed, or aching.

Let it rest

We need rest. Scientifically speaking, our bodies require the need to rest.

Our bodies all require long periods of sleep-in order to restore and rejuvenate, to grow muscle, repair tissue, and synthesize hormones.

Allowing our bodies to get back onto a regular sleep cycle helps facilitate its ability to begin repairing and rejuvenate.

Challenge yourself

Establishing a regular and routine time of 15-20 minutes of stretching and exercise helps facilitate increase on our metabolism, get us moving, and increases our ability to challenge ourselves. Like substance use, we develop tolerance where we increase frequency and amount of the substance to achieve the same effects. With exercise, this is the same concept. We may only due 2 push-ups, a couple of sit ups, basic stretching exercises, and walk only half a lap. Yet, when we are consistent in our routine, those 2 push-ups now become 6, a couple of sit ups increase, basic stretching becomes more natural, and our half a lap of walking may turn into running a lap. The key here is establishing consistency and challenging ourselves to push our body.

There are other simple ways an individual is able to implement into a healthy recovery lifestyle.

When we move from treating our bodies like a woodshed and start treating our bodies like a temple, we begin to develop a strong support for our soul and our emotional and mental well-being.


Mindful Thoughts for Today

Today, I will begin to work on improving my physical and nutritional well-being by making small changes. Establishing goals, seek medical and dental care, and work to restore overall health and wellness.

Thursday, January 4, 2018

Work and Purpose of Recovery

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Behold, are ye stripped of pride? I say unto you, if ye are not ye are not prepared to meet God. 

~ Alma 5:28 ~


We are required to strip ourselves from pride. If we do not, we are not able to surrender our life and will over to a higher power. This begins by making a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves (Step Four). Pride prevents us from a real and honest look into who we presently are.

Recovery begins when we get to the core understanding of who we are as individuals. What our weaknesses are, what our strengths are. Discovery of character defects, beliefs, values, and reasons we think the way we think, and feel the way we feel. Understanding our own personal experiences in the process. How we define our sense of reality. The impact, good or bad, we have had on other people. This process requires humility.

Our personal inventory is based on two components of truth:

Principle Truth: Fearless

In Plato's apology, we read something the philosopher quotes from Socrates when present at the trial. Socrates was ultimately condemned to death. This quote shows the inexplicable truth: An unexamined life is not worth livingTo examine one's life may require one to not fear what they see. Fear is typically something concerning the unknown. What is the greatest unknown to the person in recovery? Their own personal identity. When we are not fearful to discover who we truly are, we are liberated to accepting and beginning to work a recovery where there is meaning and purpose.

Socrates' claim that the unexamined life is not worth living makes a satisfying climax for the deeply principled arguments that Socrates presents on behalf of the philosophical life. The claim is that only in striving to come to know ourselves and to understand ourselves do our lives have any meaning or value. Again, goodness is associated with wisdom, making the life of the philosopher--the lover of wisdom--the most desirable life of all. If we refuse to question ourselves and the world, we will act without reason, unable to distinguish between good actions and bad actions. Without philosophy, Socrates might argue, humans are no better off than animals. The good life is one in which we make both ourselves and those around us happier and better off, and the only way to pursue that life is to pursue wisdom and self-knowledge. If Socrates were to give up philosophizing, he would be abandoning the examined life, and without wisdom or self-knowledge he would be better off dead.

Principle truth: Moral

When we overcome our fear of our own unknown identity, we begin to look at our own temperament and character. We question and evaluate our personal beliefs and values. We examine how our behavior has led us to where we presently are. We restore our moral agency - or our temperament and character to make appropriate decisions toward a meaning and purposeful life.

Through this, we come to see who we truly are, with the help of our own Higher Power. We come to accept our true self (soul). We strive toward restoring our sense of identity. Discriminating from our ego (false self) and our soul (true self).

By coming to terms with who we are, stripping ourselves from pride, we are further willing to submit and surrender our own lives and will over to our higher power. We come to understand our own meaning and purpose.


Thoughtful meditation for today

Help me strip myself of pride and ego in order to continue to take a fearless and moral inventory in order to discover and restore who I am.

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Timothy Berman is a Christian living a mindful crucified life who is passionate about unleashing divine insights and delving deep into spiritual musings. With a heart to nourish others, he writes soul-stirring devotionals for spiritual growth, empowerment, and encouragement. Timothy's writing is characterized by his ability to bring the reader into a deeper understanding of their faith and relationship with God.