Finding Blessing Amid Persecution: A Recovery Journey

 

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Key Passage: “Blessed are ye when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely for my sake.” ~ Matthew 5:11 ~

Recovery is a profound journey of transformation, but it is not without challenges. One of the most difficult hurdles is facing opposition from others—especially those who are unwilling to confront their own struggles. Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:11 offer comfort and encouragement when we find ourselves reviled, persecuted, and falsely accused because of the changes we’re making in our lives.

Facing Revilement with Grace

When we choose to step into recovery, not everyone will celebrate our progress. There will be those who, out of jealousy, fear, or resentment, lash out against us. They may remind us of our past failures, spread falsehoods about us, or openly criticize our efforts to live a healthier, more faith-filled life. This opposition can feel deeply personal, yet it’s often more about their own unresolved struggles than about us.

Jesus understood this dynamic. In John 15:18-19, He said:

“If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.”

In recovery, we are choosing to align ourselves with God’s will rather than the patterns of the world. This shift can make others uncomfortable, especially if they see in us a reflection of the changes they are unwilling to make in their own lives. Yet, Jesus assures us that we are blessed when we face persecution for doing what is right.

Drawing Strength from Our Heavenly Father

Recovery teaches us to rely on our Heavenly Father for strength and guidance. When others revile us, we don’t have to retaliate or prove our worth. Instead, we can draw comfort from God’s promises and remain steadfast in our journey. In Romans 12:17-21, Paul encourages us to respond to opposition with grace:

“Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary: ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.’ Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

This passage reminds us to rise above negativity and focus on doing good. By trusting God to handle the opposition, we free ourselves to focus on our growth and healing.

Kindness as a Shield

Recovery is not about proving our worth to others; it’s about becoming the person God created us to be. When faced with criticism or false accusations, we can choose to respond with kindness and generosity. As we grow in our recovery, we learn to:

1. Forgive Others: Forgiveness is a key part of healing. By letting go of resentment, we free ourselves from the burden of bitterness. Ephesians 4:32 reminds us, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

2. Set Healthy Boundaries: While we strive to be kind, we must also protect our peace. Setting boundaries allows us to distance ourselves from toxic relationships while maintaining a spirit of love and respect.

3. Practice Self-Compassion: Recovery teaches us to be kind to ourselves. We no longer allow others’ negativity to define our worth. Instead, we embrace God’s truth about who we are: redeemed, loved, and valuable.

4. Focus on the Present: Recovery shifts our attention from past mistakes to present progress. Philippians 3:13-14 encourages us to press forward: “Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

Sweet Comfort in Community

In recovery, we find strength not only in our Higher Power but also in the support of a loving community. Whether it’s a faith-based group, a sober support meeting, or trusted friends and family, these allies remind us that we are not alone in our journey. Hebrews 10:24-25 highlights the importance of community:

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

By surrounding ourselves with people who uplift and encourage us, we create an environment where we can thrive. These relationships provide a safe space to share our struggles, celebrate our victories, and stay accountable to our goals.

Overcoming Opposition with Faith

One of the most powerful aspects of recovery is the transformation it brings to our perspective. Instead of being weighed down by others’ negativity, we learn to see opposition as an opportunity to grow in faith and character. James 1:2-4 reminds us:

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

Each challenge we face—whether it’s criticism, false accusations, or lingering doubts—becomes an opportunity to deepen our trust in God and strengthen our resolve. By keeping our focus on Him, we can rise above any obstacle and continue moving forward in our recovery.

Reflective Questions

Take some time to reflect on the following questions:

1. How have you experienced opposition or criticism during your recovery journey?
2. What biblical truths or promises have helped you stay grounded in the face of negativity?
3. How can you respond with kindness and grace to those who revile or misunderstand you?
4. Who are the allies in your life who support and encourage your recovery?
5. What steps can you take to focus on your present progress rather than past mistakes or future worries?

A Call to Action

Recovery is a deeply personal journey, but it’s also one that inspires and uplifts others. As you reflect on today’s message, I encourage you to share your thoughts in the comments below. How has your faith helped you navigate opposition in your recovery? What lessons have you learned about responding to negativity with kindness and grace? Your story could be the encouragement someone else needs to keep moving forward.

Let’s continue to walk this path together, trusting in God’s grace and relying on His strength to overcome every challenge. Together, we can shine His light in a world that desperately needs hope and healing.

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Return Good for Reproach

 Blessed are ye when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely for my sake

~ Matthew 5:11 ~

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One of the challenges facing each of us are those who continue to be torn with hate. They despise the turning and transformation of our lives toward health and wellness. They revile against our recovery and progress we are making. They may even manufacture and spread falsehoods - which there is not a shred of truth. Yet, we continue to move forward in our journey through recovery. Even when people are prone to speak of our past mistakes, hurts, and Hangups. Recovery teaches us to be kind to ourselves and toward others. They despise us for the change we are making because they are unwilling to face the truth of their own powerlessness and unmanageable life.

We draw sweet comfort from our allies, from our Higher Power, and those whom we align with in sober support meetings. Our desire is to focus on the present. We have moved beyond our past failings, removed ourselves from unrealistic expectations of what the future may hold. Our recovery is not about proving to others we are capable of changing. Our recovery is about focusing on how we are changing toward a sober lifestyle.

Let us continue to go forward and return good for those that may reproach us. We continue to be helpful and generous with our kindness and generosity.

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Today's Thoughtful Meditation

I realize that people, whom I've associated with in the past, may revile against me and my recovery journey. I shall not bend ear toward their hatred for the progress and change I am making. My recovery is my own personal journey and through the grace and mercy of my Higher Power, I will continue to move forward in kindness toward self and others.

Lost Art of Speaking Kindly

 There is a deep-rooted problem in society today.

It appears that many people in our society have lost the art of speaking kindly to one another. Sure, there are probably small pockets of decent humanity where the art of speaking kindly is a delicatessen. However, in general, we seemed to have forgotten the importance of how we speak with others. This has a significant impact. And, majority of the time, we make up foolish excuses as to reasons we do not speak kindly to others.

In my early twenties, I had a gentleman counsel me. His words still ring true today. He remarked how people have an emotional bank account. With any bank account, we want to make sure that we always make enough deposits. If we do not, and we take too much money out, the account becomes overdrawn.

Today, we seemed to be making more withdrawals than we are making deposits.

And not only are we making significant withdrawals from other individuals, but we are also making significant withdrawals from our own emotional bank accounts.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou

The lost art of speaking kindly to one another, and to our own self, starts with how we come to understand the way we treat self and others.

We begin to speak kindly too ourselves

This is important because we want to consider how we treat ourselves first. How we treat ourselves stems from how we speak to ourselves. Once we understand how we speak and treat our own personage, we begin to realize how we speak and treat other people around us. We fail to grasp the extreme and rigid viewpoint of either being selfless or selfish.

How do we repair an emotional bank account that is overdrawn? We start making daily deposits until the account goes from being a negative balance to a positive balance. We keep going to ensure that there is enough to cover any possible withdrawal. Yet, most of us tend to walk away in the hopes of avoiding the negative. Unfortunately, we continue to carry the negative balance throughout our lives. However, when we stop running from our fears and emotions, we begin to embrace and take responsibility for how we feel, and what we are saying; we begin to heal by speaking kindly. 

This requires grace toward self-identity. And the more grace we show ourselves, the more we pour into speaking kindly, the outcome naturally follows to where we are capable of speaking kindly toward other people.

How we speak into other people's lives leaves a significant impression on them

People will not remember what we have done for them. They may even forget what was even said to them. As Maya Angelou teaches us, they will remember how we have influenced the way they felt. If we speak harshly, with condemnation and judgment, they will remember how they felt angered, hurt, betrayed, or frustrated. However, if we speak with thoughtful and genuine kindness, they will remember the comfort and peace it brought into their lives.

Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace ~ Buddha

When we are speaking into people's lives, we are using a powerful influence to contribute something meaningful and purposeful; or we are exerting our powerful influence to injure and hurt another person. This is because our tongue has a significant power to speak life or death:

There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. ~ Proverbs 12: 18, ESV

Our words either tear someone down or are uplifting and comforting them.

8 simple principles to remember

First, we want to begin speaking thoughtfully toward ourselves, and then toward other people. We speak with validation. There is acknowledgement, compassion, and empathy in how we speak to self and toward others. Our words truly reflect and illuminate who we are.

Secondly, we want to be kind toward self and others when we speak. This does not mean we have to forfeit our need to be direct and assertive. We have the capacity to show kindness even when we are making a firm and direct stance.

We have the power to influence people through our kindness than we do in detracting them with unpleasant and unkind methods.

Third, we develop a genuine need to listen attentively. This requires some patience on our part. Instead of processing what we want to say next, we are failing to connect with and understand the conversation. Even our own body language shows whether we are speaking kindly or not. In those quiet moments where we tend to listen attentively in order to show kindness toward self and others.

The next principle requires the art of mindfulness. Speaking kindly to self and others requires our ability to reserve any form of judgment. We all have personal biased opinions. As human beings, we also have a proneness to be reactionary from an emotional viewpoint.  We like to say, think before you speak! Yet, how many of us follow this rule of thumb? By reserving our judgment, we are thoughtfully engaged in hearing what another person is saying. It is when we are consciously aware of their own humanity, we become more invested in the interaction with them.

Fifth, we want to be honest. We want to speak kindly by maintaining integrity. We want to speak with truthfulness with compassion - even when speaking truthfully maybe hurtful for self and others to hear. There is no pussyfooting around the mulberry bush; especially when we are engaged in a more serious conversation.

Sixth principle is to understand the need to consider the other person's opinion. Many times, we are speaking in a manner to prove our sense of right! Some years back, I had engaged in an innocent conversation over Excedrin. It involved my daughter's mother. I had mentioned that I lived with a gentleman who liked to chew on Excedrin tablets. His reasoning was because of the codeine contained in the medication. We engaged in a bantering debate. Inevitably, she pulled out a bottle of Excedrin and had me read the ingredients. Sure enough, I was wrong. The problem: I pushed the issue because I believed I was right, especially without evidence.

We want to value the other person's opinion and we want to be open and receptive regarding their opinion. Because, when we are speaking kindly with self and others, we may be open and receptive to new possibilities and opportunities we may not have considered.

One of the important things we want to consider is not to yell. When we raise our voice, whatever it is we say becomes irrelevant. We are no longer talking with other people; we are talking at them. We also have come to a place where we've lost control and the conversation becomes different, sometimes volatile. We want to be at a place of managing our emotions so that we are not becoming emotionally reactive. Once we are emotionally reactive, we may say things that upon later reflection, we might regret, or say something that may cause a serious withdrawal from their emotional bank account.

We want to ensure that we bring ourselves to calm, collect our thoughts, take ownership of our own feelings, and respond kindly that communicates our own frustration and emotional state.

Finally, we want to show our appreciation and gratitude. Nothing speaks more volumes of kindness and appreciation than a simple "thank you for your time," or "I appreciate the hard work you are doing."

Where do we go from here?

Each of us has an emotional bank account. When we speak kindly to ourselves, and toward other people, we are engaging in a lost art of conversation. We are empowering, lifting others up, and being a person of influence. And, as we engage in this lost art of society, the hope is that by our speaking kindly and gently toward self and others is the motivating factor to influence others to begin speaking kindly.